"This is a remarkable book, both erudite and personal. The authors take us beyond the medical label to the inner world of individuals suffering from BPD. We are able to witness, up close and personal, the genesis and development of an ego traumatized by abandonment, wounded by relational failures, and torn between the intense longing for intimacy and uncontrollable anger towards the other. The take-home message of this book is that in spite of the challenges of treating a long untreated trauma, healing can still occur, only if a therapist is able to stick to clients' experiences and stay engaged with authentic empathy, even when he becomes the target of therapeutic rage. I highly recommend this book to both novice and seasoned psychotherapists."